“How did you become so independent”

A couple days ago, my close friend had asked me advice on how I became so independent. She was going through her own learning experiences of coping with a break up to which I re-assured her that self-love and building it through forgiveness really set me off to where I am now.

Forgiving anyone (even myself) that did me wrong 10000x made it easier to move forward. I learned that when we harbour hatred or emotions from past trauma we tie ourselves from moving past it. Not dealing with it only makes the weight become stronger to get rid of as time passes. And it’s shitty. Ask yourself, “Why would you miss anyone/anything that mistreats you or puts you in a place where you feel shitty about your life” And do this repeatedly til you get to your senses.

To not harbour hate you have to release yourself slowly by asking and giving yourself forgiveness and permission to let go. To actually understand that you’ve added to the pain by remaining attach to it and that it’s been of disservice to you is when the healing begins. You move forward by replacing hate/anger/sadness/depression with reflection.

It’ll feel powerless at first but sit back and watch it work.

Truthfully, I’m unsure how independent I am. Perhaps people are mistaking my ‘independency’ for the type of love I have. All I know is that since I’ve invested in building, protecting and fighting my self love — the more it goes unnoticed of how unmistakable my love is.



Dear God,

May I continue to trust in Your timing. I don’t want to force or rush anything that isn’t from You. May I learn the importance of being patient & prepare in my season of waiting.


GLOW [pt. 2]

I admit, I owe myself an apology for all the shit I let slide.

That said I am a gorgeous woman and the love that I have is unmistakable. I am humble in the confidence that I have — in my aura, the way that I walk, the way that I speak. I value building experiences and relationships based off of love, reciprocity, honesty and vulnerability. Those that do not, I leave them with gratitude for that is what they are.

I no longer worry as I strengthen my faith in “trusting the process”. God would not put me through such experiences if I were incapable and the FACT that I do go through them shows how capable I am.

I practice non-attachment — allowing and accepting things to enter my life and letting it leave when it wants to because there is greater truth, “what’s meant for you, will always find its way to you effortlessly“.



Build relationships based on love, reciprocity and honesty inspiring you to seek deeper in life within yourself. And the relationships that don’t — leave you with gratitude for they reveal what you need and are meant for in YOUR life.

Practice non-attachment. Accept what comes and allow it to leave when it wants to leave because what’s for me will be for me effortlessly. Remember, be fully immersed in the present. “If you’re angry you’re living in the past, if you’re worrying you’re living in the future and if you’re content you’ll know you’re living in the present, and that’s when life all starts to make sense”

– Em.

Energy is the currency of the universe. When you ‘pay’ attention to something, you buy that experience. So when you allow your conscious to focus on someone or something that annoys you, you feed it your energy, and it reciprocated energy of being annoyed. Be selective in your focus because your attention feeds the energy of it and keeps it alive. Not just within you, but in the collective consciousness as well.